The last week was rough.
It's silly, really, but because I coach women on ways to simplify their lives and connect to their TRUE purpose, I feel like I should "know better" or should be more "equipped" to handle when the big stresses hit.
Since becoming a Wife and Mother I truly have added many skill sets, exercises, and tools to my Revival Kit that usually help me through the gunky parts of my day to day.
But, like everyone else, sometimes I get sucked into the adrenaline rush of BUSY. Opening up new opportunities for my business, building our new home (we are SO close to being done) and the every day momming and wife-ing plus an added layer of anxiety was big, nice recipe for a breakdown. I was snappy. I was hormonal. I was angry. I was more than a tad overwhelmed.
BUT THEN I CALMED MYSELF THE FREAK DOWN.
How, you ask?
By giving myself a big, heaping, dose of GRACE.
Grace has always been a subject that fascinated me. That after all we can do, something, someone, can help us make up the difference. From a religious perspective it helps me massively. But what about from a day to day viewpoint?
How can we give ourselves some of that Grace-ful quality?
Realizing that We truly, and legitimately do NOT have to do it all.
I was frantically looking outside of myself this last week. Thinking, "If they would...then I would feel less stressed." "Once I get these collaborations done, I can relax." "When we are in our house I'll feel more centered."
But, you guys. That's not the way life works. (Or at least, I haven't figured out a way to completely control others/my life circumstances yet:).
BUT, I am 1000% convinced that if we can take a BIG, nice breath and give ourselves the luxury of turning INWARD for a second, we can find a solution to the crazy.
Mine this last week was tapping into that Grace. It wasn’t my circumstances or people in my life that needed to give me a freakin break, it was ME.
Some ways I applied this concept:
-Pulled out my “big girl pants” (aka the ones I bought myself for the awkward phase between maternity pants and my “normal” size. Nope. Not pregnant. Just having some #tightpantprobs after the holidays still. 😂). UGH this made me so happy. To be comfortable. And give my body gratitude for all it does for me by not restricting it because of a stupid concept of fitting into “my size”. I’m not discounting the fact that, yes, I need to re evaluate my eating and connect more with myself so I feed myself more nourishing foods. But I have been slipping into feeling lots of anger at myself because of the stage my body is in. Today as I did some yoga; I stripped down and lovingly gave that squishy belly of mine some LOVE. Because my body is a freakin miracle. And I’m not going to discount that just because of a little flab.
-Universe + Me To-Do Lists. Instead of overwhelming myself with all that needed to be done, I simply labeled the FEW things that literally only I could do, and wrote the rest on “The Universe’s To-Do List”. It’s amazing what things can get done when you release the need for YOU to do it all. People and things magically made that to do list take care of itself usually.
-Gave myself permission to say “No”. I said no to some social obligations, said no to being the best homemaker (messiest house ever this week) and said no to trying to dial down screen time. And ya know what? WE ALL CAME OUT ALIVE!
I hope that you all can give yourself a bit of Grace this next week. Love on yourself and the ones around you a bit more. On your own terms that are best for YOU. I’d love to hear how you apply this in your own life. Comment below if that resonates with you. ❤️
✨Love and Light, Mal
Mally Griffin. Founder of 'The Revival Kit'. Bringing women tools to not just Survive their lives, but Revive them.